Wednesday, September 11, 2013

The Classy & Virtuous Helpmeet: 5 Tips for an Allaah Centered Marriage


All praise and thanks belongs to Allaah. Lord and Creator of all the worlds. May Allaah bestow His peace & mercy upon the Prophet, his family, his companions, and on all of those who follow them in truth until The Last Day. Aameen

As salaamu alaykunna!

Here are 5 Tips to an Allaah Centered Marriage :-)

1. Play The Qur'aan & Recite

It is reported that ‘Abdullâh b. Mas’ûd – Allâh be pleased with him – said:

The house in which the Qur’ân is not recited is like a derelict house that has no one to maintain it.

It is also reported that he said:

Verily the emptiest of houses are those that are empty of the Book of Allâh.

It is reported that Abû Hurayrah – Allâh be pleased with him – used to say about the house in which the Qur’ân is recited:

It becomes spacious for its inhabitants, the good of it becomes plentiful, the angels come to it and the devils leave it. And the house in which the Qur’ân is not recited becomes cramped for its inhabitants, has little good in it, and the devils come to it.

Ibn Abî Shaybah, Al-Musannaf articles 30645, 30647 and 30650.

2. Remind Each Other Of Allaah

One way to remind each other of Allaah is by calling each other to good. Sharing beneficial ilm. 

For example: Remind each other about making duaa at certain times

You can say: "Dear Husband remember today that Hadeeth: “There are two which will not be rejected: du’aa at the time of the adhaan and when it is raining.” [Saheeh al-Jaami' 3078]."


Hadeeth: “A du’aa made between the adhaan and iqamah is not rejected.” [Saheeh al-Jaami', 2408]

Remind each other of Allaah often....its one of the best things you can do to have an Allaah centered Marriage

3. Listen to & Obey Your Husband

"‘The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one’s husband pleases Allah."

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4. Pray For Each Other & Pray Together

Remember the old saying: "The family that prays together, stays together."???

"Do not, therefore, let it escape you that the prayer will prevent you from entering your house towards sin or going out towards it because it has been reported from Abu Hurairah (ra) that the Prophet (sallallaahu alaihi wasallam) said: "When you leave your house, pray two rakahs, they will prevent you from going out towards evil and when you enter your home pray two rakahs, they will prevent you from entering into evil."

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and lastly 

5. Love your husband, your marriage, your family for the sake of Allaah

375. Anas bin Malik (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: The Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) said, "There are three qualities whoever has them, will taste the sweetness of Iman: To love Allah and His Messenger (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) more than anyone else; to love a slave (of Allah) only for (the sake of) Allah; and to abhor returning to infidelity after Allah has saved him from it as he would abhor to be thrown into the fire (of Hell)".
[Al-Bukhari and Muslim].

1. In this Hadith, the love of Allah signifies the sweetness of Iman.

2. The love of Allah and His Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) is the cornerstone of the Faith. When it is said that this love should exceed one's love for everything else in the universe, it means that what is enjoined by Allah and His Prophet (sallallaahu ’alayhi wa sallam) must be given preference over everything else, whether it is love for the wife, children, worldly interests, desires or whims. When there is a clash between the two, the former should be given preference over the latter.


  1. Asalualaikum,
    I have to confess I usually ignore any of your posts about marriage and related mushy-ness. I don't know what compelled me to read this particular post but I have learnt a couple of new things and have been reminded as well. may Allah make us Allah centred in all that we do. Amin.

  2. Bismillaah

    Wa alaiki salaam

    Mashaa Allaah I'm glad the post had some benefit. Aameen to your duaa :-) *Umm Suhailah*

  3. what does one do when you are the only who is trying to live this kind of life? ive been on the fence on divorcing him for what ive been through with him. he doesn't read anything about islam, and only quran seldomly. he keeps falling off his salat, and doesn't pray when im on my period but prays about 1 or 2 prays a day when im not on my period. what do I do? I cant keep living like this. I keep trying to help him, and I know it is Allah who guides.

    1. Bismillaah

      As salaamu alaiki

      Subhana'Allaah I apologize for the late reply sis. You should make duaa for him and ask Allaah to aide him and guide him. And ask Allaah to give you patience. Also it's good to get counsel from those that are in authority like an Imam at a masjid *Umm Suhailah*


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